Which reminds me......
A week or so ago I asked him to sign for a parcel delivery because I was busy in the kitchen and he looked totally confused and said 'Can you PLEASE just come and do it Mum, I really don't want to'...
I didn't really get what the problem was - but I went and signed for it myself.
The following day another parcel delivery arrives (it is almost his birthday remember) and again I asked him to sign for the parcel. (It's part of my 'making him more independent' plan)...
He still obviously doesn't want to do it - but I stay where I am this time and say
'Just sign for it please Djamel'....
The delivery man gives him the pen and book and tells him where to sign - and YAY! he does it.
Now you might be thinking 'No big deal, it's just a parcel'....BUT everything that Djamel struggles with then manages to do IS a big deal, to him and to me. Dj has Aspergers and sometimes things (normal, day to day things) just really 'get' to him - so we're working on doing stuff even when you feel it's not what you want to do.
I then went to the door, took the parcel off him and said 'Great, well done, you did a good job there'....
I then went to the door, took the parcel off him and said 'Great, well done, you did a good job there'....
He looks at me with his eyes filling with tears and says
"Is that money going to come straight out of my savings account now"....LOL! No wonder he hadn't wanted to sign, he thought he would get charged cash for the parcel....:-))
"Is that money going to come straight out of my savings account now"....LOL! No wonder he hadn't wanted to sign, he thought he would get charged cash for the parcel....:-))
The sheer relief on his face when I explained 'No money involved' was a picture. He does like his cash to be left alone for sure.
Anyway, I'm completely off topic now....
Today, he signed (getting really good at it - now he knows it's 'free'...) for these gorgeous growing flowers in a basket with chocolates attached
Thank you to my parenting buddies: Tracy, Karen, Clare, Emma, Sarah, Rina, Cyra - so appreciated.
I met this lovely group of ladies a couple of years back through the old AOL message boards and joined them in a email parenting group. They are the sort of people you need around you in a crisis and one of them always has the answer...
When I first became unwell I didn't fill them in and I've only recently let on what the problem has been - their instant response, send flowers and chocolates and supportive messages on the blog.
Everyone should have friends like these...Thank you so much xx
Like I said, I am so spoilt (and I'm loving it) :-))
Dizzie likes them too...he's a cat of extremely good taste, he just loves sniffing flowers and evens settles down to sleep next to them.
Did anyone see the story of the horrid lady who put the cat, Lola, into the bin? Wicked person!
